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berm 小さな土の山
◇畑や庭などで土を山と谷のようにした時の山がbermで谷がswale
わたし的には「畝」と「溝」でした。
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assimilation（同化）
中国人はチャイナタウンを作って結束するけれど
日本人移民は同士で結束していくより移住した土地にassimilation（同化）して生き延びる国民性。
なるほどね
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fly by the seat of one's pants
勘や経験で判断・処理・決断するという意味
「パイロットが計器などに頼らず，ズボンのおしりの部分（パイロットと飛行機の最大の接触部分）で感じるまま操縦する」から，「あらかじめ計画したり，他の意見を参考にしたりするのでなく，自分の直観で行動していく」という意味
何か難しいことを、それをする訓練も受けてないのに、本当はやり方も知らずに、する。
by the seat of one's pants
《口語》 経験に基づいて, 経験から得た勘で
《【由来】 計器などに頼らずに飛行機を操縦することから》
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chopping
収入が途切れ途切れ
低収入が無い
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get the short end of the stick
損な役割を担わされる
貧乏くじを引く
割を食う
ババを引く
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My stepdaughter, 42, hits up her father for $1,000 on a regular basis.
夫と前妻との間の42歳になる義理の娘が1000ドルずつ夫からお金を引き出している。
It comes out of our joint savings account.
そのお金はわたしと夫の共同名義の口座から出てるのよね。（怒）
hit up for
〈人から〉〔借金など〕を求める
hit up
〔お金などを人に〕頼む、せがむ、ねだる、依頼する
hit up （場所）
「（場所）に行く」
「（場所）に着く」
「Let's hit up the bar.」
「バーに行こう」
hit me up
「誰かに連絡とる」
「連絡ちょうだいね」
hit the road
行く
出掛ける
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per se
＝by itself；in itself
・・・・not・・・， per se.
正確に言うと・・・というわけじゃない
per se illegal
《法律用語》それ自体違法 略語だと PSI
oppose peace per se
平和そのものに反対する
be well known per se
それ自体が周知である
have no value per se
本質的な価値はない
like the styling per se
そのスタイル自体が好き
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red flag
危険・警戒・停止信号としての赤旗
怒り
敵意を引き起こすもの
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done and dusted
be done and dusted
無事終了
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unjust enrichment
法律上の原因がないのに他人の損失において利益を受けることをいう（民703条）。
具体例としては，無効な売買契約に基づいて目的物の引渡しを受けたり，債権が存在しないのに弁済を受けることがあげられる。
https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/my-bank-accidentally-deposited-10k-in-my-account-i-reported-it-then-moved-it-to-my-savings-account-have-i-done-enough/ar-AAOKq0c?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531
人生相談
1000ドルを口座に入れようと銀行に行ったら窓口係が０を１個余分につけてしまった。
翌日銀行に伝えて０を減らしてもらおうと
支店長にも話した。
２日ほど時間が掛かると言われた。
だけど実際にやらないのがアメリカだからね
ということで その後 自分の預金口座にその1万ドルを移した。
笑
銀行が悪いんだから、と。
で回答の方は 「裁判になったら弁護士を雇ったりして１万ドルは持ち出し案件だぜ」と。
2015年に18歳の男の子が同じような案件で（執行猶予）10年 くらったそうです。
当然間違えられた人にお金を払わなきゃいけないしね。
ま、よくあるハナシだそうです。
わたしは損した経験はあるけどトクな立場になった事は無いな。
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red herring
赤ニシン（笑）
おとり
目くらまし
偽情報
燻製ニシンのことから
ジャーナリズム用語で「本題から目をそらさせるための偽情報、本題からかけ離れた紛らわしい情報」の意味。
猟犬が野獣の臭いを嗅ぎ分けられるよう訓練するさい、燻製ニシンの強烈な臭いを使って犬を惑わしたことに由来。
重要な事柄から受け手（聴き手、読み手、観客）の注意を逸らそうとすること。
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reeling
非常に動揺している
経済的に安定できない気持ちがある
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have their financial ducks in a row
ducks in a rowを直訳すると カモを一列に並べる 笑
つまり ちゃんとお膳立てする 準備しておく
だから
ちゃんとお金の準備をしておくこと
お金に困らないように計画しておくこと
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volatile
今の日本語だと 「瞬間湯沸器」 かな？
すぐに怒ったり 気分でコロコロ言うことが変ったり。
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money creation
直訳だと貨幣創出, 通貨創造
つまり「信用創造」ということ。
つまり（笑）
銀行が貸し付けによって預金通貨を創造できる仕組みを表す。
簡易には準備預金制度のもとで、銀行が有する「貨幣を生み出す」機能を指す。
創造される信用貨幣の量は準備預金制度に依存し、
家計や企業の資金需要と借り手の返済能力の影響を受ける。
銀行が貨幣経済において果たしている重要な機能のひとつであり、
預金創造とも呼ばれる。
現代のほとんどの経済機構では、マネーサプライの大部分は銀行預金の形をとっている。
中央銀行は、いわゆる通貨（金融）総量 monetary aggregates を測定することにより、経済機構内の貨幣量を監視する。
つまり もっと 簡単に言うと 「万年筆マネー」 のこと。笑 何のこっちゃ
つまり私達の預金通帳に銀行はいくらお預け頂いたかの金額を書き込むことであって
銀行自体にお金がうなっているわけではなく
我々が大金を引き出そうと突然銀行に行っても銀行のヴォウルトvaultに現金は無く
我々は前以て銀行に連絡しておかないと現金を貰えない。
だから不特定多数の預金者が突然銀行に押し寄せて預金を引き出すと銀行は倒産してしまう。＝取付騒ぎが起きる
大昔じゃないんだから銀行強盗さんが銀行を襲っても金庫に大金が眠っているわけじゃない。
だから銀行にいくら現金があるか前以て分かってないとね。
へ～
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chonies
underwearのこと
肌着類、下着、肌着、パンツ。
こんなの初めて知った。
うちのオットはパンツのことは「undy」って呼んでる。
chonies とは スペイン語の calzones から派生した英語の俗語で
calzones とは古い日本語だと パンタロンのこと。 1970年用語？
要するに パンツとかズボンとか下着のパンツのこと。
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以下の人生相談の内容が面白かったので記念にコピペ：
My husband sprung a prenup on me days before the wedding.
夫が結婚式の数日前にプリナップを突然出して来たんですよ。
Is this normal?
こんなのアリ？
Obviously, I went ahead with the marriage.
勿論結婚したわよ。
He is a lot wealthier than me, but this was not something we had discussed in the run-up to the marriage.
夫は確かに裕福だけど、こんなの結婚する直前に持ち出すことじゃないわよね。
It came as a shock.
もうショックで。
I put it aside for the big day so as not to spoil it,
大事な結婚式を前にその問題は横に置いとくことにして、だって結婚式を台無しにしたくなかったし
but there has been a lingering feeling of resentment on my part in the weeks since we married.
だけど結婚してからずっとここんとこ数週間、私にしてみれば怒りが収まらなくって仕方ないんですよ。
Still Reeling
いまだに動揺中より
そりゃ彼女にしてみれば（金持ちの男、ゲットォ～）って喜んでたのに結婚式直前に
「オレの財産はお前にはやらないからな」
なんて書類を持ち出されたら 「ウッソォ～」 だよね 「なんなの？この男！」って。笑
で、回答者のお言葉：
I don’t blame you for feeling blindsided.
不意打ち喰らってガッカリしてるの 分かるよ。
Marriage is a business contract as much as it is a romantic one. So is a prenup.
だけど結婚って愛でもあるけど業務契約でもあるんだよ。だからプリナップってのがあるんだな。
回答者の全文
Dear Reeling,
I don’t blame you for feeling blindsided.
I have no doubt that this happens because a prospective spouse with more money than his/her partner suddenly panics at the last minute and asks their lawyer to draw up a prenuptial agreement — and then buries their head in the sand while the document is delivered.
That’s not a good way to handle challenging conversations, and can lead to “dry rot” forming in a relationship — unspoken hurt and resentment that slowly eat away at trust and intimacy between two people. Whether it’s normal or not doesn’t matter. It’s not normal for you.
It may also be a strategy by some lawyers: spring a prenup at the last minute, acting like it’s the most natural thing in the world with the intention of reducing the time and momentum for negotiation. Marriage is a business contract as much as it is a romantic one. So is a prenup.
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bridge loan
繋ぎ融資
こっちの人生相談の方が深刻。
“My long-term boyfriend hid enormous amounts of business and personal debt from me,” she says. “He was self-employed in a well-paying field, and I had no reason to suspect anything was amiss.”
“He revealed a terminal illness to me that he had known about since the beginning of our relationship, about a year before he died,” Mae says. “I discovered the debt after his death. We had a comfortable lifestyle and he assured me that he had life insurance in my name for when he passed.”
“When I was trying to find the policy information, I discovered he had kept his business afloat with many bridge loans that had exorbitant interest rates. In fact, there was no life insurance at all,” she continues. “He had stopped making payments on his car and our home and was under investigation by his field’s regulatory board for fraud. It was incredibly devastating, and I suddenly found myself with nothing. I had to sell almost everything we owned and move out of our home within a week of his death.”
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It's a deal breaker.
約束が違うじゃん！
ハナシが違うじゃん！
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dip into one's money:
お金を出す、お金を使う、懐中物をすり取る、貯金に手をつける
ヒトのお金に手をつけたい
結構毒親なんで全文ここにコピペしておきます：
I’m So Tempted to Dip Into the Money My Kids Inherited From Their Grandma.
夫婦で 子供達がおばあちゃんから貰った遺産を狙ってる というハナシ。
My in-laws died a few years ago, and we received some money, about $12,000, which we used to pay off one car and do some home repair on our 25-year-old house.
親戚の者が数年前に亡くなって
わたしらはいくばくか、 1万2000ドルなんですけどね、 貰ったんですけどね
だけどそのお金はクルマ１台の支払いと築25年の家の修理に使っちゃったんですよ。
However, our two kids received $30,000—each.
で、うちの子供達なんですけど、1人３万ドルずつ貰ったんです。
Gran left each kid a note telling them about their “college fund.”
ばあちゃんは「あんた達の進学資金に使ってね」とメモを子供達に残して。
Both kids received full scholarships—even through their master’s programs.
子供達は２人とも大学どころか大学院まで全部返済不要の給付金を受けているんですよ。
Neither one wants a Ph.D.
あ、子供達は２人ともPHD＝博士号＝は望んでません。
What was my MIL thinking?
わたしの姑の意図したところは何だったのか？
We couldn’t pay for college?
私達夫婦には大学は出してやれないから？
That she doesn’t trust us with money?
私達２人のお金についての事には信用してないから？
We’d love to finish our house repairs (repairs—not remodel), plus have a little breathing room.
私達夫婦は家の修理を済ませたいのですよ（修理であってリモデルを望んでいるわけじゃないです）それにもうちょっとスペースも欲しいし。
We have it in a separate account because they were minors at the time.
子供達は当時まだ未成年だったので別の口座にお金は入れてました。
Our daughter has taken over hers.
娘はもう遺産を自分のものにしています。
Our son just asks for money when he needs it (he just bought two new tires).
息子がね、使いたい時に使えるように、お金をくれって言ってるんですよ（タイヤを２本買ったばっかりなんで）
It came from that account. We have not spent their money on anything except their large needs that we couldn’t afford.
勿論あの口座からお金を渡しましたよ。
2人のお金に手をつけたりはしていません。
子供達が必要な場合で、私達夫婦に払えないような大きな額の時以外は。
However, I’m …
—So Jealous of My Kids
あぁん、もう、子供達が羨ましくてたまらない！
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filial responsibility law
親が医療費の借金を残して死んだ場合子供にこの法律が適用されるんですって。
filial duty
子供が親に対して持つ義務：孝行義務：孝養義務
(duty of a child to its parents)
Filial responsibility laws
Filial responsibility laws are laws that say that children must support their parents should they fall ill or into poverty, and can bind children to pay for certain things after the death of a parent.
There are currently 29 states with filial responsibility laws in effect.
50州全部じゃないのか。へぇ～
These laws are rarely enforced, though there have been incidents, such as
the case of Health Care & Retirement Corp. of America v. Pittas, in which a son was forced to pay $93,000 for his mother’s nursing home stay.
これは滅多に適用されない法律だけど
母親のナーシングホーム代9万3000ドルを払わされた判例があるんですって。
以下は弁護士さんのお話：
“In my 25 years in practice, having worked on well over 1,000 probate estates, I have never seen the state enforce filial laws,” Palley says.
25年遺産相続をやって来て、扱ったのは1000件以上になるけど、1度もこんな孝養法にぶつかったことはありません。
“That law does require the filing of an action before death, though I believe the claim could end up being sought after death.”
Since the Pittas case in 2012, more nursing homes are sending out notices for bill collection if the elder in need of treatment has not enrolled in Medicaid or entered into a payment plan.
Pittas’s dilemma could have been avoided entirely had his mother’s Medicaid gone through on time, which ties directly into the next issue: Medicaid itself.
“If your parent’s medical care was covered by Medicare or Medicaid, the government may want repayment from your parent’s estate,” says Anthony Park, an attorney and professional executor. “This ‘claw-back’ often applies to expenses such as home aides, hospice, or nursing homes. Most government agencies don’t automatically send you an invoice or statement. Instead, you’ll receive a creditor’s claim or lien, once you set up Mom or Dad’s estate.”
Park suggests that a good way to handle this is to contact the correct government agency and request a balance statement. That way, you know the amount and can plan accordingly.
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vent
怒りを爆発させる
get by
なんとか生きていく
しのぐ
余裕などなく、最低限で暮らす
母と娘の喧嘩（75歳 vs 55歳）
55歳の娘は
夫が失業し、その後、立ち上げた事業がコロナで頓挫し、
今は失業保険などで生活してて
お金に困っているのです。
She vented that I should have stepped in to help, and should have known they were eating peanut butter and eggs to get by.
娘は私が手を差し伸べるべきだったと怒りを爆発させ
食事はピーナッツバターと玉子でしのいでいることを知るべきだったと言うのです。
Since that time, I have given them $2,000 a year as gifts to my grandchildren in cash.
あの時以来私は娘夫婦に年2000ドルを孫たちにと現金で上げて来ました。
I also gifted their youngest daughter a car worth $22,000.
それから1番年下の孫娘には2万2000ドルの車もプレゼントしました。
My daughter told me, “You have more money than you know what to do with.”
娘は「お母さんは使い切れないほどのお金を持ってるじゃん」と言うのです。
She has told me numerous times that my inheritance is “their money” (meaning my parents).
娘は数え切れないほど何度も私が相続したお金を「あの人達のお金のくせに」と言うのです。
（つまり私が両親から相続しただけのお金ということです）
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De Facto ＝in fact＝ 事実上の ←→ De Jury 法律上の
de facto CEO 事実上の社長
de jury CEO 正式な社長
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回答の一部：
You can’t know what’s going on with them unless they tell you and, perhaps, there is room for you to help her with her grocery bills, if that’s something that you are comfortable doing.
娘さん夫婦に何が起きているのか言ってくれなきゃ分かるわけないよね。
出来る範囲でちょっと助けたいというならスーパーでの買い物代を払ってあげるとか？
But you cannot become a de facto Ms. Fix-It every time something goes on.
娘さん夫婦に何か事が起きる度に問題解決する機械になんかなれないですよ。
You’re her mother, not a piggy bank to be shook and grumbled at if she doesn’t hear it rattle.
あなたは娘さんの母親であって、打ち出の小槌じゃないし（あ、今はATMって言うのか）お金が出てこないからとガタガタ文句を言われる筋合いでもないですよ。
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nocturia
夜間頻尿
この症状はいろいろ原因があるけれど その中の１つとして 特に黒人とヒスパニック系 の 男性に多い。
その理由は 社会経済上の問題とか文化的なものがあるから：
つまり医療保険に加入してないとかで医療を積極的に受けないから。
夜間頻尿を経済的な面からも語っていることに驚いた
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/what-causes-nocturia-13-reasons-you-re-constantly-getting-up-to-pee-at-night/ar-AAPi070?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531
何故起きるのか？
What causes nocturia?
There are many health conditions that can cause nocturia, according to the American Urological Association (AUA). It's important to note, however, that nocturia is a symptom, not a disease; in contrast with polyuria, where the body makes an excess amount of urine, a person with nocturia is producing a normal amount of urine but either not voiding it all or simply feeling an urge to go even when their bladder is fairly empty.
Here's a list of medical conditions and other issues that might make you get up to go:
Enlarged prostate
As men age, it's not uncommon for their prostate glands to become enlarged, which makes it difficult to fully void the bladder; because the glands are enlarged, the flow of urine becomes blocked or impeded, per the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai.
Also called benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), about one-third of men report symptoms by the age of 60, and it often continues to increase from there, reports the Mayo Clinic. Nocturia is one of the most well-known symptoms of an enlarged prostate, as being unable to fully void makes it feel as if you need to urinate more often and more urgently.
Bladder dysfunction
Bladder problems can occur in men or women, though usually for different reasons; if you're urinating frequently due to nocturia, this is known as "low-volume bladder voiding," says Mark Ellerkmann, MD, director of the Urogynecology Center at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore.
This can happen, Dr. Ellerkmann explains, because of reduced bladder capacity—as you age, the bladder wall stretches and can't store as much urine—or bladder dysfunction: "The two most common causes of low-volume voiding are benign prostatic hypertrophy in men, causing bladder obstruction, and overactive bladder."
Diabetes
Both nocturia and polyuria can occur in people with diabetes, reports the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK), so it's important to understand the distinction between the two conditions.
Polyuria is a classic symptom of diabetes. People with uncontrolled diabetes produce elevated amounts of urine, primarily because of high blood glucose levels, says the Mayo Clinic. With nocturia, the root cause of nighttime wakings is different—you don't make more urine, you just feel a more frequent urge to go.
Typically, nocturia in people with diabetes is due to a combination of factors, including swelling and diabetic nerve damage. A small 2020 study in the Journal of Wound, Ostomy, and Continence Nursing found that older women with diabetes were more likely than their younger counterparts to have urinary frequency at night, partly because of these co-existing conditions.
Edema (aka swelling)
Seen often in patients with heart disease or congestive heart failure, edema can also be a cause for nocturia, says Dr. Ellerkmann. Though tissue can swell in any part of the body thanks to fluid retention, the lower legs and ankles are the most common spots—and this can lead to an increase in urination.
"When these patients lay down and elevate their lower extremities, the body attempts to mobilize the excess fluid back into the circulatory system, and the kidneys attempt to get rid of it," Dr. Ellerkmann explains, adding that this cycle of sending excess fluid into the kidneys can lead to an increased frequency in voiding.
According to the CDC, interstitial cystitis (IC) is a chronic pain condition of the bladder that often includes inflammation of the bladder walls. Also called "painful bladder syndrome," IC is sometimes diagnosed based on a person reporting an increase in nocturia, per the Interstitial Cystitis Association.
Pregnancy
Because of increased uterine growth and pressure on the surrounding organs, pregnant people often feel like they have to go—all—the—time. For the most part, this only happens because the bladder is being squeezed; per the Cleveland Clinic, all that pressure means your bladder may not be able to hold quite as much urine as normal.
Neurological disorders
Physical damage to the spinal cord or central nervous system can also contribute to nocturia, says S. Adam Ramin, MD, urologist and medical director of Urology Cancer Specialists in Los Angeles, who adds that it can happen as a result of several conditions, such as Parkinson's disease or spinal cord injury. The National Association for Continence refers to this symptom as neurogenic bladder.
It's also common in people who have a history of stroke. In fact, two separate studies—one from 2012 and one from 2019—suggest that urinary incontinence and lower urinary tract dysfunction are extremely common in the first three to six months after having a stroke.
Illness
Common infections, like those of the urinary tract (UTI) and bladder, often cause intense, sudden urges to urinate, reports the Mayo Clinic. If you have an infection, you would probably not only have this symptom at night (in other words, you'd feel it during the day, too), but if your nocturia is a brand new problem and you have other signs of infection—such as fever, burning sensation when you pee, or pelvic or lower abdominal pain—it's worth considering.
Age and Ethnicity
There are some risk factors for nocturia that are 100% out of your control:
Age. Per Dr. Ellerkmann, an increased volume of nighttime urination can occur with a decrease in the anti-diuretic hormone called arginine vasopressin (AVP.) "Normally, there are higher AVP plasma levels at night, which lead to less urine production," he says, "however, in older patients the level of nighttime AVP production may be lower, leading to age-related increases in nocturia."
According to the National Association for Continence, the majority of people with nocturia are over the age of 60.
Ethnicity. Nocturia is more common in Black and Hispanic people, especially men. But Dr. Ramin says it may not be because of any particular genetic or hereditary disposition; rather, in many causes, the causes may be socioeconomic or even cultural.
"Black and Hispanic men are generally less likely to have access to healthcare and are less inclined to seek medical care, so their disease condition progresses and symptoms become more pronounced," he explains.
Medications
There are some medications that can cause nocturia; diuretics are an obvious culprit, but the AUA reports that some heart medications and mood stabilizers can increase nighttime urination. While it may not be feasible for you to stop taking these drugs entirely if you need them, in some cases you can change the timing of your dosage so you aren't taking them close to the evening.
Sleep disturbances
If you're waking up several times during the night to pee, you're probably assuming the problem is with your urogenital system (i.e. the part of your body responsible for your urinary and reproductive organs), but it could actually be a sleep-related problem instead.
"Obstructive sleep apnea may cause nocturnal polyuria by the release of atrial natriuretic peptide (ANP), a hormone that can cause the kidneys to make more urine," says Dr. Ellerkmann. "Sometimes patients awaken due to insomnia or restless legs, and once awake, they have the sensation of needing to void, but it really was their sleep disorder that awakened them and not their bladder."
Psychological causes
Dealing with anxiety? Dr. Ramin says that may help explain your nighttime bathroom runs to void your bladder.
"Some patients get chest pain or discomfort, some patients have increased bowel movements or diarrhea, and a lot of patients get an increased urge and frequency to urinate," he says. "It can happen at night and in the daytime, so anxiety can definitely lead to nocturia, even in cases where the person has no problems with their bladder or prostate."
Similarly, mental health conditions such as depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder can also leave people feeling like they "need" to use the bathroom every time they wake up at night, especially if they sleep lightly or have frequently disrupted sleep cycles. These people haven't woken up because of the urge to urinate, says Dr. Ramin, but because they've learned out of habit to use the bathroom after they've woken up.
Lifestyle choices
We're assuming you don't regularly drink 64 ounces of water every night before settling into bed, but if you do...you should stop! If you're waking up to use the bathroom frequently during sleep, it could be for the simple reason of having a full bladder thanks to drinking too much, too close to bedtime, Try to cut yourself off from liquids two to three hours before going to bed, the AUA advises.
You should also consider what you drink along with how much: some beverages, like alcohol and caffeine, are diuretics, which means they increase your urine output.
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on a shoestring
わずかな金で
昔, 貧しい行商人が靴ひもを売って生計を立てたことから
〈資金・予算など〉わずかな，乏しい; 危なっかしい
live on a shoestring 細々と暮らす
a shoestring budget 乏しい予算
https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/retirement/this-couple-retired-2-years-ago-on-about-27-000-a-year-here-s-how-it-s-going/ar-AAPsRo5?ocid=msedgntp
2年前 67歳の夫婦が隠退を決めて 月２万7000ドルの予算で生活するために
ニューヨークからフロリダに引っ越した話：“Retiring on a Shoestring.”
all in all
細かい事は抜きにして ニューヨーク時代と変わらずフロリダでもやってますよ、と。
all in all
全部で、全体で、合計で、全面的に、全て、完全に 全体から見て［見ると］、全体として見れば
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48歳の子持ちの年収20万ドルのプロフェッショナルな女教師で資産は120万ドル。
このコロナ禍で1500㎞離れた年収８万ドル、家なんかの資産合計15万ドルのオッサンとネットで知り合って
彼氏が転がり込んで来た。
だからお金は彼女が殆ど出している。
We would not be living together yet if we had just met locally.
近くに住んでる関係で知り合ったんだったら一緒に住むことはなかったんだけどね。
I don’t want a permanent freeloader as a boyfriend, and he does want to pay something.
私としてはこれからずっと彼氏として居候させる気は無いし、彼氏はちょっとは払うって言ってる。
で、どうしたら良いでしょうという人生相談。
回答：
That ship has sailed.
船は出ちゃったね。 （取り返しのつかない方向に進んじゃったね）
a Greek chorus
誰だって口を揃えて言うよ（異論を唱える者はいないよ）
The tablecloth in your kitchen is currently woven from red flags.
食卓のテーブルクロスが赤い旗になってるね。（ヤバイね。危険信号の域に入ってるね）
disparity
格差 （裕福なシンママとカツカツのオトコ）
uproot
追い立てられる （なんでサッサとアンタの所に転がり込んだんだろうね）
Make no further commitment until you know more about him, and are sure this is the right relationship for you.
そのオトコがどんな人間か、アンタにとってまともな関係なのか、もっとちゃんと見極めるまで、これ以上深入りしないことだね。
I do know this: A great guy does not sit idly by and let his partner pick up all the bills.
わたしが言えることは：いいオトコってのはブラブラ遊んでないし、女のお金を当てになんかしないもんだよ。
回答全文：
Oh, boy. I would have said it’s too soon to move in together, but that ship has sailed. Given that you have mentioned marriage, I would like to add my voice to — I hope — a Greek chorus to say it’s too soon to even think about getting hitched. Greek choruses usually get a bad rap for sticking their noses where they’re not wanted. In this case, however, I think it’s warranted. Slow down.
You don’t really get to know someone until you have lived with them, so know that most people start as they mean to continue. He has arrived and — notwithstanding his own mortgage responsibilities (let’s generously assume what he has said is true) — stood by while you paid not only for groceries, but also for trips and dinners out. The tablecloth in your kitchen is currently woven from red flags.
What do you know about this man, and why have you been in such a rush to move in? Why have so many of his financial responsibilities suddenly become yours to bear? What need does he fulfill in your life that a solvent, stable and secure man who lives in your own city could not fulfill? If you are carrying so much of the load after six months, how much will you be expected to carry after six years?
He should pay exactly half of all your household grocery bills and dinners and trips, and he should pay something toward his rent/your mortgage. I’ll leave that for you to decide — given the disparity in your salaries, he might pay one-third of the mortgage or market rent.
If he showed the same willingness to contribute financially to your household as he has shown to uproot his life and move 900 miles to be with you, we would not be having this conversation. But his actions thus far do not add up.
Tread carefully. Go slowly. And make no further commitment until you know more about him, and are sure this is the right relationship for you. I’m sure you think he’s a great guy, and he may be a great guy for someone out there, but I can only go on what you have told me in your letter.
I do know this: A great guy does not sit idly by and let his partner pick up all the bills.
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GRIT
やり抜く力
困難にあってもくじけない勇気，気概，闘志
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docent
1 （通例非常勤の大学の）講師
2 （美術館や博物館の）（無料）ガイド
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give oneself
ものスゴク簡単な単語２つの組み合わせだけど 一瞬 え？日本語でどういう意味？ よね
取り組む；自分でやる；備える；確保する；行動する；開始する
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/7-ways-you-can-give-yourself-diabetes-doctors-say/ss-AAPCSEf?ocid=msedgntp#image=1
7 Ways You Can Give Yourself Diabetes, Doctors Say
医者が教えるあなたが自分で出来る糖尿病対策
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onerous
〔仕事・任務・義務・負担などが〕面倒な、厄介な、煩わしい
《法律》義務負担を伴う、有償の
https://www3.forbes.com/leadership/the-us-states-people-are-fleeing-and-the-ones-they-are-moving-to-version-3-vue/46/
隠退するのに良い州ということでハワイが6番目に挙げられてました。
Hawaii
Tourism and the U.S. military are the significant drivers of Hawaii’s $97billion economy.
ハワイの産業は観光と基地だけ。
Hawaii has one of the most onerous business tax situations and the highest energy costs in the nation.
ハワイは法人税が超メンド臭い州の１つでエネルギーコストが最悪。
Another drawback: the highest cost of living in the U.S. Hawaii’s median home price of $711,000 is $119,000 more than any other state.
もう１つ厄介なのが生活費がアメリカの中で一番カネかかって
住宅の中央値が71万ドルちょいで、これはどの州よりも11万9000ドルも高い。
Tough to beat the weather though.
だけど天気だけはどこにも負けてはいないぜ。
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シスジェンダー（英語: cisgender）
生まれたときに割り当てられた性別と性同一性が一致し、それに従って生きる人のことをさす。
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not-so-secret
半ば公然の秘密
it is tempting to think that
〔that以下〕であると考えたくなる；つい思ってしまう
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/10-simple-things-men-not-so-secretly-want-from-their-future-wives/ar-AAPPVwh?ocid=msedgntp
brian fairbanks
1 day ago
10 Simple Things Men Not-So-Secretly Want From Their Future Wives
オトコが妻になる女性に実は望んでいる１０のこと
It's tempting to assume men only want two things: steak and sex.
女性の皆さんは
え？オトコが女に求めること？
そんなん「肉が喰いたい」と「セックスしたい」と思ってるだけでしょ？
と思ってるよね？
Entire days are devoted to perpetuating these kinds of cliches, yet they're humorous for men because we're amused that women assume this false notion is all we want.
We're quite complicated creatures, and although probably not as baffling as any space alien from a Candace Bushnell column, men have secret wish lists of emotional needs that you may or may not be meeting.
Yet, we're almost simplistic in our desires — so simple, in fact, that few women don't notice the fine line between our usual stoic persona and a deep funk brought on by a lack of reciprocated interest.
Here are ten examples of what men want that you may find are closer to your own emotional needs.
1. A moratorium on drama.
We give you the occasional free pass to freak out about something that seems rather trivial upon next-day, post-caffeine retrospect.
This doesn't mean a free pass to cause a scene in front of our friends or family, though.
2. Sexy sex.
It's not enough to keep our sex lives consistent; both partners have to keep it consistently sexy.
If you're not into it, we can pretend not to notice for a few times, but after that, it'll eat away at us and we won't have the guts to ask you what's wrong ... yet.
The best thing you can do isn't over-the-top-"yes, yes, yes"-ing; we'll detect that fakery, too.
The trick is that, however you do it, you let us know that you really like doing it to us.
3. Romance.
Crazy, right?
What guy would scoff at you for bringing him a present, a token of affection once in a while, or cooking him a steak, and then instead of telling him what you're going to do to him later, you tell him that he's amazing and sweet?
Hell, I'm getting a tear in my eye just writing that.
4. The truth.
The reason many guys have control-freak issues is that they have a sixth sense about being lied to. (Another reason they have control freak issues is that they're control freaks; learn to spot these guys in advance and avoid them like an Ebola outbreak.)
Next time your man says, "Who were you with?" give him the excruciating play-by-play, who was there, what the latest gossip on Cindy's crazy ex-husband, which bars you went to, everything except the bathroom breaks.
This way, not only does he feel completely assured, but he'll never pester you again about what you did.
5. Silence.
Some of us aren't as loquacious as our lady friends might like.
But generally, it has nothing to do with you and we're not up for talking about it.
6. Dinner.
One of the reasons you were thrilled to venture into a relationship with us is that we were completely willing to subvert the master-and-servant relationship paradigm.
In other words, you don't have to cook for us every night, nor do you have to pretend to like our bow-tie pasta with Ragu specialty.
But a middle ground where you occasionally whip us up our favorite Bolognese after an incredibly trying day is like the reverse of us taking you shoe shopping.
7. A sense of humor.
Every guy in America has this phrase on his personals profile under the "What I'm looking for" category.
Should you dismiss it because, well, you thought The Hangover is funny?
No, because what "A sense of humor" really translates to is "Are you relaxed, in the moment, and bantering with me?"
If the answer is "often not," we're going to think you're distracted and probably wondering how to extricate yourself from this tedious relationship.
8. Someone who listens.
We hear you when you say that men don't open up unless their compadres Jack Daniels and Jim Beam help them out.
When you sense we have just received some upsetting news, make it clear you'll listen, but then drop it immediately.
We'll come to you with the answers when we're ready to deal with bringing it all up again, which may be never if it turned out to be no biggie.
9. Marriage.
It may not necessarily be the matrimony of your girlhood dreams, but we do want to form a more perfect union with you — permanently.
We may be hesitating because we worry that we're making the right choice, that we're meant to be together forever, rather than just proposing to you because we've been together for a couple of years.
Maybe we need more time to settle in, but it's not because we're still thinking about other women. We care about you, and that's why we're carefully weighing this decision.
10. An end to game-playing.
This is a sort of bookend to the moratorium on drama.
Everyone thinks it's cute to toy with the boys when you're starting out, calling them back days later and seeming disinterested.
In the end, this only has two possible outcomes: 1) we'll be put off by your lack of interest and go with a stronger choice, or 2) we'll pursue you for so long you'll assume we're in a relationship, except we're still figuring out whether all that bird-dogging was worth catching the chick.
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sans 元はフランス語 = 英語の without
It's great to have a grown-up meal in a restaurant, sans kids!
餐馆里只有成年人，没有小孩子真好。
子供抜きでレストランで大人の食事が出来るのは最高！
笑
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a rite
毎度の事、でいいかな？
普通は儀式とか形式とか一般常識とかって感じの語かな？
rack up
〈多数・大量のものを〉積み重ねる，〈多くの利益・損失を〉重ねる，〈得点・勝敗などを〉積み重ねる
雪崩のように来る、って感じかな？
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/other/i-m-a-canadian-who-used-to-live-in-nyc-here-are-9-things-i-don-t-miss-about-the-us/ar-AAPTLIA?ocid=msedgntp
カナダ娘がニューヨークに数年住んで
どうしても好きになれないアメリカのことを紹介しています。
例えばアメリカの医療保険制度はカナダに比べたら なんじゃぁ？ レベルだから
Cockroaches and mice might be a rite of passage for New Yorkers, but I never got used to them.
ゴキブリとネズミはニューヨーカーにはフツーの事なんだろうけど私は絶対に慣れることはなかった。
After discovering a cockroach in my bed one hot summer night and my cat with a dead mouse hanging out of her mouth not once, but twice, I developed a persistent, low-grade anxiety over finding those unwanted roommates.
I don't miss the fear of being joined by unexpected dinner guests while cooking or creepy crawlies in the shower.
その内に北海道でもゴキがフツーにウロチョロするんだろうね。
I no longer worry about getting sick with the Canadian healthcare system
医療保険についての恐怖
Even though I bought insurance in the US, I still lived with the constant fear of getting in an accident or falling severely ill and racking up an extremely high hospital bill.
アメリカで保険には加入してたけど事故に遭ったり重篤な病気になったらものスゴク莫大な入院費が雪崩のように請求される恐怖で一杯だった。
Although Canadian healthcare isn't exactly free - we pay through our taxes - and is far from perfect - those seeking specialized care or mental-health services can wait years before seeing someone - it's still a remarkable system.
勿論カナダの医療制度だって無料というわけじゃない 税金で払ってたから でも完璧な医療制度と言うにはほど遠かった
専門医に掛かりたいとか精神科に掛かりたいとか言ったら何年も待たなきゃいけない
でもアメリカに比べたらずっと良い医療制度だ。
Since moving home, I feel especially grateful that I can see a doctor or get blood work done by simply showing my health card.
カナダに戻ってからは診察券１枚見せるだけでそこら辺の医者には診て貰えるし血液検査だって簡単に受けられるから本当に有り難く思ってるわ。
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hysterical
笑いが止まらない
フツー日本じゃ ヒステリーという意味で使うけど
フツーアメリカじゃ 超ウケる ひどくおかしい 笑いが止まらない ということで
例として a hysterical movie ひどくおかしい映画
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plummet
急落
Hawaii holds on to virus restrictions even as cases plummet
ハワイはコロナ感染が急落しても制限を続ける
antonyms for plummet
反対語
ascend
go up
grow
increase
raise
rise
shoot up
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細木数子が亡くなって
そのサイトに関連記事で出てた某芸能人の数年前の訃報に トンチンカンな反応をしたヒトに対するレスをコピペ：
「記憶力や注意力の低下は年取ったご褒美みたいなもの。
一粒で何度でもおいしい、みたいな」
笑った
歳を取ると ムカシのハナシが懐かしくて またまた楽しめる ってコトですね。
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the lion's share
いちばんいい部分
うまい汁
大部分
大半
不当に一番大きな利益やうまみのある部分を独占する
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fracas
騒ぎ、騒動、けんか
(通例大勢の人が加わる)けんか(騒ぎ)
【語源】イタリア語の「大きな音」
「騒動」を意味するfracassoがフランス語に入り、18世紀に英語になった。
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hold down a job
辞めたりせずにきちんと仕事をする
https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/i-have-an-8-5-million-estate-and-nine-kids-three-of-whom-have-not-proven-to-be-responsible-should-i-cut-them-out-of-my-will/ar-AAQr3vN?ocid=msedgntp
1972年に高校を卒業して以来同級生だった女の子と結婚して
奥さんは医者で旦那さんはコンピューターやってて
結婚当時持ち金は4000ドルもなかったけど今や資産8.5M ＝ 10億円あたり。
子供が９人いて２人は実子 ７人は養子。
さて遺産をどう残したら良いかという御相談。
養子のうち３人は クズ。ギャンブル狂とか16歳から家出中とか金を巻き上げるヤツとか。
もう１人は勉強できなくて でも 一応仕事をしてるんだけど この子への遺産はどうしたものかと。
I married my girl from high school in 1972. We graduated and she went to medical school. She graduated and has worked as a doctor since 1978. I worked in computers.
We went from having less than $4,000 to $8.5 million. We are old and our pleasure is planting (my wife) and travel (for me) as Minnesota is cold. We also spend our time working on the farm. We had two birth children 実子, and adopted seven children 養子.
With our estate, my wife and I split things equally. She wants $500,000 to go to our church. I do not have a problem with that, even though we have supported it and have paid a faithful tithe for our 49 years together.
Our two eldest children work in a hospital and our third eldest got a religious degree and did missionary work overseas for 12 years, and now is sort of a paraprofessional. Two other children are living in properties that I bought for them.
I would like to give my eldest son double what I give the other kids, but I would like to exclude three of my children from my will for three different reasons: gambling, leaving home at 16, and trying to shake me down for money (わたしから金を巻き上げようするんだけどコレはlong story長いハナシだ).
My wife wants me to change my mind with one of my children who declined to pursue an education, and has been holding down a job, if not a very well-paid job. Must the assets be divided equally? What is your take on this?
妻はこの子については考えを変えろって言うんですわ。この子は上への教育を拒否したけど一応仕事は続いてる。給料が良くない場合を除いてはね。資産は平等に分けるべきでしょうかねぇ？どうお考えでしょう？
Father of Nine in Minnesota
Dear Father of Nine,
Sometimes, the clue is in the question. In this case, the clue is in your signature. You are a father of nine. Not a father of six. You don’t mention what church you belong to, but I trust it’s one that teaches forgiveness and public service rather than punishment and conditional love.
答えの手掛かりはあなたの「９人のオヤジ」の中にあるじゃないですか。９人の父親だって。どういう教会に属しているのかは分かりませんけど、教会の教義は罰とか条件付きの愛じゃなくて「赦し」と「社会貢献」ですよ。
It sounds like you and your wife built a good life, lived below your means, and created a sizable nest eggかなりの資産. You can afford to be generous and have the power to give some children more than others, but sometimes the message comes from not exercising that power.
あなた達ご夫婦は良い生活をしてきて莫大な資産を蓄えましたね。わたしなんか足許にも及びませんや。
あなたはやろうと思えば特別可愛い子供には他の子供よりも気前良く多くを残せるわけだけど
あなたの文章にはそういう力を行使したくないんだというのが見えてますね。
You have raised nine children and you want them to be happy — but also, I hope, to become individuals, follow their dreams, develop their own set of values with the foundation you and your wife have given them through your own example, and, yes, even make their own mistakes.
Your letter doesn’t say whether your one child left home at 16 due to problems in your relationship; because they did not subscribe to your house or family values, rules and/or spiritual-belief system; or simply because they needed to find their own feet and strike out on their own.
If you were upset with them leaving home at 16, I would gently suggest that they were too young to be punished for that decision at such a young age — and, as we all know, sometimes it’s hard to repair relationships once the damage has been done.
If you don’t trust your children to use their inheritance wisely, I would suggest leaving them money in a trust that has specific requirements — like a college degree of their choice — or with an income over years to ensure that they remain solvent and stable.
By cutting some children out of your will, you may die leaving behind your ill will, hurt feelings, confusion and anger. A will that specifically excludes some children may cause lasting damage to your children and their relationships, and leave no room for healing.
遺言状で切り捨てたらあなたは死後に悪意を残すことになりますよ。
傷つけ混乱させ怒りをね。
遺言状にハッキリ子供達に差をつければ将来子供達の関係は傷ついたままで癒されることは無いですよ。
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walk out on
（人）の元を去る、（人）を見捨てる
He walked out on me. 彼は、私の元から去って行きました。
Don't walk out on me! 私を見捨てないで！
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/my-mother-walked-out-on-me-when-i-was-16-and-moved-in-with-3-hot-college-guys-i-never-blamed-her/ar-AAQMhl3?ocid=msedgntp#comments
My mother walked out on me when I was 16 and moved in with 3 hot college guys. I never blamed her.
イギリスの毒母の話。
わたしの母親はわたしが16になった時、父と私を棄て
カッコいい大学生のオトコ３人をうちのアパートの隣の部屋に連れこんだ。
私は母を責めたりしなかった。
全文コピペ
My mom left our family when I was 16 years old and moved next door to us.
I speak on motherly abandonment in my new memoir, "My Mother Next Door."
I choose to frame my life and my mother's as a tale of curiosity, compassion, and forgiveness.
My mom was a headstrong, independent woman who felt like she was dying in her suburban life. Just as the feminist movement was rising in revolutionary 1970s London, she undertook her first trailblazing move: walking out on me and my father when I turned 16 to move directly next door and live with three hot college guys.
A week after my 16th birthday, my mother cornered me in the kitchen and said, "I've given your father and you 16 years of my life, and you're old enough to take care of the dog, your father, and yourself." Actually, the dog arrived when I was 8, but that's 56 years in a dog's life, so she clearly loved the dog more.
I was caught in a ball of confusion and hurt, split down the middle, as I teetered between the convenience of her being next door and the inconvenience of witnessing her unapologetic abandonment each time I exited my home.
I found ways to cope
I coped by compartmentalizing my life: friendships, school, mom's new independent life, and home life with dad.
My best friend's family home became my refuge, along with my friends at school. They normalized my teenage life, lifted my spirits, and never questioned nor shamed me.
Forming independent bonds with my older siblings gave me a sense of family and helped me navigate my parents.
Ultimately, music (primarily Diana Ross') and dance were — and always will be — my salvation, a way to express myself, release the remnants of pain and stress, and feel joy in the madness.
I never blamed her for what she did
I never blamed my mother for leaving or her actions thereafter. I never held her accountable for her narcissism. It wasn't until a few years before she died that I found myself at a breaking point from the latest torrent of her maternal wrath.
I saw a therapist who told me, "What your mother did was wrong. What she expected of a 16-year-old wasn't normal, and you don't need to make excuses for her anymore. She left you, a child, to handle it on your own."
She freed me of any shame and validated my newly chosen path. My childhood shaped the person I am today.
I learned to listen to both sides of a story, to have an open mind so I could navigate and flourish in the pure absurdity and beauty of life and people, while finally understanding that I can't fix everything and the importance of setting boundaries.
Ultimately, our mothers are imperfect, but for all the pain mine caused, she also gave me the gifts of courage and acceptance.
I've always believed that I chose to be born to my mother so she could toughen me up for the world while encouraging me to think not just outside of the box but way beyond it. I pass this down to my own children.
Breaking the cycle of a toxic mother-daughter relationship is possible, but first, you may have to look at the story from your mother's point of view. And then, hopefully, you'll find a greater capacity for compassion, love, and forgiveness.
Diane Danvers Simmons is the author of "My Mother Next Door" and host of the intergenerational podcast "Mothers & Daughters Unfiltered."
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マイク・タイソンが蛙の毒＝「蝦蟇の油」＝ 蟾酥; センソ＝日本では毒薬＝を吸って死の体験をした時のハナシ。
I did it as a dare.
敢えてやった。
その前はコカインなんかのハードな薬物をやってたんだって。
I was a wreck.オレはあん時クズだったからな。
https://www.msn.com/en-us/entertainment/entertainment-celebrity/mike-tyson-died-after-smoking-toad-venom/ar-AAQOwck?ocid=msedgntp
Mike Tyson 'died' after smoking toad venom
Bang Showbiz - Yesterday 5:00 AM
In April, US President Joe Biden's son Hunter said toad venom helped to keep him sober for more than a year.
4月にバイデン大統領の息子のハンターが「蛙の毒で１年以上しらふでいられたぜ」と話した。
ハンターはアメリカを代表するもう１人のクズ。
How dare you say such a thing!
よくもそんなことが言えるな！
I dared to tell him the truth.
彼に思い切って真実を話した。
How dare he tell me what I should do!
私が何をすべきかよく彼が言えたもんだな！
How dare you talk back to me like that!
よくもそんな風に口答えができるわね！
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alias
別名;偽名
From Latin alias (“at another time; at another place, elsewhere, under other circumstances, otherwise”).
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/body-of-fugitive-missing-for-16-years-found-in-south-carolina-where-he-lived-under-alias/ar-AAQUwOk?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531
Body of fugitive missing for 16 years found in South Carolina, where he lived under alias
Antonio Planas - 5h ago
16年もの間行方知らずだった逃亡者の遺体がサウスカロライナで見つかった。
そこで偽名で暮らしていたことが分かった
The decomposing body of a fugitive wanted for alleged sexual assault of a child was found in South Carolina, where he had been living for more than a dozen years under an alias, according to the U.S. Marshals Service.
子供への性的暴行で指名手配されてたオトコの腐乱死体が見つかった。
the U.S. Marshals Service
米国の最も古い連邦法執行機関
https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E9%80%A3%E9%82%A6%E4%BF%9D%E5%AE%89%E5%AE%98
イギリスによるアメリカ大陸の植民地化の過程で、警察を含めて多くの制度がイギリス本国から持ち込まれており、その一つが「マーシャル」（Marshal）であった。
これは基本的には廷吏であり、令状の執行や囚人の護送を職務としていた。
アメリカ合衆国においては、保安官（シェリフ）やコンスタブルの制度とともに導入されており、開拓地では村落の実質的な治安維持責任者として機能したこともあった。
以下略
https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E4%BF%9D%E5%AE%89%E5%AE%98
ロス時代の知り合いのダンナがシェリフだとかで彼女はえばってた。
シェリフって、何？
ということでちょっとウイキからコピペ：
原型となったイギリスの代表的な公安職は下記のようなものであった。
シェリフ (Sheriff)
国王からシャイア（州。現在のカウンティの前身）ごとに派遣された代官。
当初は「シェアリーブ」（Shire Reeve、州代官）と称されていたが、後に訛って「シェリフ」となった。
マーシャル (Marshal)
裁判所の運営にあたる廷吏。
法廷内の秩序維持や令状の執行、囚人の護送などにあたっていた。
コンスタブル (Constable)
最初期は隣保組織の長（十人組長）がこう称されていたが、後に1年任期制・無給で地域住民から選ばれる法執行官を指すようになった。
時々、シェリフの車やマーシャルの車を見掛けてて、
ホノルル市警と何が違うの？
と疑問だった。
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ファイブ・アイズ
調べて来ました：
米英加豪ニュージーランドの、英語を母国語とする5カ国のインテリジェンス同盟のこと。
5カ国は協力して世界中の電波、サイバー空間から日々情報を収集しており、一般にこれを「通信傍受」と呼ぶ。
インテリジェンスの世界で最も秘匿度の高いのがこの通信傍受の世界だ。
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double voiding
二段排尿
排尿後、時間がたっていないのにもう一度ある程度の量の排尿があること
saving grace
まだ、マシの内
悪い状況の中で神から与えられた救い
欠点を補う取り柄
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/wellness/if-you-feel-the-urge-to-pee-right-after-going-double-voiding-could-be-your-saving-grace/ar-AAR0xE4?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531
If You Feel the Urge To Pee Right After Going, ‘Double Voiding’ Could Be Your Saving Grace
Korin Miller - 3h ago
さっきオシッコに行ったばかりなのに、またスグに行きたくなるって、二段排尿は、まだマシってコトかも
When it comes to annoying things in life, having to pee right after you just went is up there, but one pelvic floor physical therapist says she has the solution to this issue: double-voiding.
Marcy Crouch, DPT, dropped the tip on TikTok in late October, and the technique is pretty simple:
It shows Crouch hanging out in a bathroom next to the words, "Do you have to pee even though you just went? When you are done, stand up, move your hips around, and then try to go again."
おしっこしてから、立って、腰を回して、もう１回おしっこしてみる
Cue Crouch standing up, doing what looks like a pelvis-only version of the Macarena, and then sitting back down on the toilet. "This will get some of the leftover urine out of your bladder and give you more time," the TikTok says.
Crouch's post was flooded with comments. "I am definitely going to try this!" one person said. "I always have to go twice before bed (minutes apart)."
What is double voiding 二段排尿とは
Double voiding, which is medical speak for peeing and then peeing again, "can be a very helpful tool in your toolbox if you have certain bladder symptoms," says Ashley Rawlins, PT, DPT, a physical therapist at Origin.
The term usually describes techniques that help you to empty your bladder fully, she says.
"After voiding, you use double voiding techniques to try and empty a bit more," Rawlins continues.
"Double voiding can be helpful in some instances when you have a hard time getting all of the urine out of your bladder."
Standing up to do a hip wiggle over the toilet seems more than a little weird, but pelvic floor physical therapists say it can help.
"This move is one of my favorite tips to give patients," says Kylee Panse, PT, DPT, a physical therapist at Spectrum Health's Women's Health and Wellness Center.
"I call it the 'double void dance' or the 'potty dance' and teach it with the cues 'Around. Around. Stand up. Sit down.' I think it is a quick way to start to see changes in leakage after urination or urinary frequency."
You don't technically have to stand up to do this, though, says Julia Abramov, DPT, a physical therapist at Sanctum Med + Wellness.
"Rocking hips forward and back several times before the second void can be performed in standing, but can also be performed while sitting on the toilet," she says.
Who should try double voiding どんな人が二段排尿をするべきか
Rawlins says it can be helpful for people who have urinary retention, which is when a little too much urine is left in your bladder or urethra after you go.
"There are many different causes of this, but sometimes using double voiding techniques can help to overcome some of the more mechanical causes of urinary retention, such as pelvic organ prolapse, which can alter the anatomy of your bladder and urethra enough to make fully emptying a challenge," she says.
Sometimes, the need to pee twice comes down to your individual anatomy, says Ciera Grevengoed, PT, DPT, a physical therapist at Spectrum Health's Women's Health and Wellness Center.
"When the bladder fills, it expands and moves up and around the uterus," she explains.
"Depending on your anatomy, the bladder might move more or less than others, and sometimes that leads to difficulty with emptying."
Your bladder also shifts as you change positions, Grevengoed says, so double voiding can help compress it so that you can empty it completely.
"I think of it like deflating an air mattress—you need to press on it as you roll it up to get all the air out and fit it back in its bag," she says.
"This trick does the same thing."
Other factors, like not being able to relax your pelvic floor muscles when you pee or being sensitive to bladder irritants (like caffeinated drinks, sparkling beverages, alcohol, chocolate, and citrus fruits and juices), can lead to feeling like you have to go twice, Abramov says.
"Stress and anxiety can interfere with bladder function as well," she adds.
When to see a doctor about frequent urges to pee 頻尿で受診が必要な場合
Not everyone who feels like they need to pee again soon after going should do this.
If you have trouble relaxing your pelvic floor when you go or are sensitive to bladder irritants, this dance or moving your hips to get more pee out won't help, Abramov says.
You could also be dealing with an issue like inflammation of your urethra, a urinary tract issue, or pelvic floor muscle dysfunction, Rawlins says—and doing a little dance over the toilet won't help those issues.
If you feel like you need to pee after you just went, and this is a regular thing for you, Rawlins says it's time to check in with a medical professional.
"Always check in with your healthcare provider if you find it hard to fully empty your bladder," she says.
"It may not be anything to worry about, but it may also be a sign of something larger going on."
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dominant hand
利き手
pass out drunk
酔い潰れて寝てしまう
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cold case
未解決事件
迷宮入り事件
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rigor mortis
死後硬直
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死体が脱糞するハナシ
The corpse may poop its pants
Before rigor mortis sets in, all the body’s muscles relax. The result, of course, could be one final bowel movement as the sphincters relax and the stuff they’re holding in is released.
This doesn’t actually happen very often, but if the bowels are full, it increases the likelihood that whatever is inside must come out.
Male corpses may get an erection
男の人に起きる現象（笑）
全員じゃないってよ。
If the corpse is laying face down after death, it’s possible that gravity will pull the blood downward. For some men, the blood will pool in the pen*s, giving the corpse the appearance of an erection.
だから死んだら仰向けにしなきゃいけないのか。
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/what-happens-to-your-body-when-you-die/ss-AAROmWU?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531#image=1
What happens to your body when you die
Alan Jones - 5h ago
死んだら身体はどうなる
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ditch one's work
仕事をサボる
ditch work
なんかチョッと耳が痛い・・・
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break the bank
破産させる
費用などが大した額にはならない
賭けに勝って胴元を潰す
破産するほど高い
一銭残らず使い切る
break into the bank
銀行に押し入る（笑）
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racial slur
人種的中傷
人種差別的な発言
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gray divorce
高齢離婚(50歳以上のカップルの離婚)
熟年離婚
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/career/your-standard-of-living-plummets-if-you-divorce-after-this-age-studies-say/ss-AARWUxn?ocid=msedgntp#image=1
Your Standard of Living Plummets If You Divorce After This Age, Studies Say
Lauren Gray - 3h ago
研究結果に頼らなくったって分かるよね？
特に女性は経済的に大変だって
Your Standard of Living Plummets If You Divorce After This Age, Studies Say
Your standard of living drops significantly if you divorce after 50.
Women suffer particularly serious financial loss.
Remarrying should undo some of the financial toll of gray divorce.
If you plan to divorce past 50, use this financial checklist.
While a divorce—especially a gray divorce—is no one's idea of a good time, it's an unfortunate reality for many. Since 1990, the divorce rate in those over the age of 50 has more than doubled, reports the AARP.
If you or your partner do decide to end your marriage, it's important that you take reasonable steps to protect your finances. For this reason, the AARP has compiled a financial checklist for gray divorcees, which includes everything you'll need to do before signing any divorce documents.
Additionally, the organization recommends securing a financial planner or accountant to help you map out your new budget, retirement plan, taxes, and more. Many divorcing couples also benefit—financially and otherwise—from mediation. This can help settle some of the points of negotiation without racking up astronomical lawyer bills—the last thing you need during a difficult time that's already so financially fraught.
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think outside the box
「頭を柔らかくして考える」
「型にはまらない考え方をする」
「創意工夫してアイディアを考えだす」
If you want to save money--serious money-- you have to become an out of the box thinker.
10. Buffett Thinks Outside the Box To Save Money
バフェット爺さんがお金持ちの理由
In Roger Lowenstein's biography of the businessman, "Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist," the author says that after Buffett's first child was born, he converted a dresser drawer into a space for the baby to sleep instead of spending money on a bassinet, reports Forbes. When it came to the family's second child, he borrowed a crib rather than buying one.
bassinet
新生児用かご型ベッド
生後4か月ぐらいまでの乳児用ベッドのこと
crib
米国で用いられる四方に柵のついたベビーベッドのこと
バフェット爺さんは最初の子供が生まれた時 バシネットを買うのではなくて 引き出しを使った
２人目の子供の時はクリブを買うのではなく借りた。
Perhaps making your baby sleep in a drawer seems a little extreme, but it's just an example of thinking outside the box. Use resources that are already available to you to prevent unnecessary spending.
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varsity team
大学チーム
代表チーム
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waste not, want not
アメリカの諺 アメリカ版「もったいない」
「もったいない」と、無駄を戒めることわざ
意味は
Use what you have wisely so you will always have enough.
持っている物を賢く使えば、常に充足していられる。
むだをしなければ不自由もしない
浪費しなければ、窮乏することもない
無駄がなければ、不足することもない
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【前途遼遠】
目的達成までの道のりや時間が、まだ長く残っているさま。
今後の道のりがまだ遠くて困難なさま。
▽「前途」は将来、目標までの今後の道のり。 「途」は道のりのこと。
この言葉は知らなかった。
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snarl
〔事態・通信網などを〕混乱させる
Information is becoming snarled.
情報が錯綜している。
Flight cancellations snarl holiday plans for thousands
2021年のクリスマスはコロナのオミクロン株のパンデミックで飛行機のキャンセルが相次ぎ何千人もの乗客の休暇予定がグチャグチャに混乱した。
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Due Dilligence
適正で万全の注意を払って遂行される審査
投資対象となる企業や投資先の価値やリスクなどを調査すること
不動産投資やM&Aなどの取引に際して、投資対象となる資産の価値・収益力・リスクなどを経営・財務・法務・環境などの観点から詳細に調査・分析すること。
結婚する前に両目で相手をしっかり見ろ
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最近のファッション用語がサッパリ分からない。
unitards
体操選手やバレエダンサーなどが着るレオタードとタイツが一体になった運動着。
肌に密着して長い脚と長い袖の付いたワンピース形式の衣装。
stilettos
スティレットヒール＝ピンヒール
Cold-shoulder tops
肩のところに布が使われていないブラウスや上着
shrug sweater
ボレロ(bolero)よりもさらに短い女性用セーター。
こんなの見たこと無い
chunky sneakers ＝ Chunky platform sneakers ＝ "dad sneaker" ＝ オッサン・スニーカー
靴底が分厚いガッチリしたスニーカー
これはもう時代遅れだそうです
雨の日に重宝するのでワタシのお気に入り
水溜まりの中を歩くのが好きなんで
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/fashion/stylists-reveal-12-items-from-your-2021-wardrobe-that-you-should-get-rid-of/ar-AAS9OjL?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531
2021年で終わりにすべきファッション12
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sandbar
砂州とか中州とかに訳されるけれど
ハワイでのサンド・バーとは 引き潮になった時に現れる砂地 のこと。
クリスマス後にクリスマスツリーをサンドバーで燃やすヒトがいるけれど
この行為は違法。
以下コピペ：
使用済みのクリスマスツリーを海岸で燃やさないで
ハワイ州国土自然資源局（DLNR）は海岸でクリスマスツリーを燃やして焚き火をしているところを発見したら逮捕をすると警告している。
オアフ島ウィンドワードのカネオヘ・ベイにあるサンド・バー（引き潮になった時に現れる砂地）は地元住民の中でボートを所有している人々や観光客に人気の場所だが、そのサンド・バーに使用済みのクリスマスツリーを積み上げて焚き火をするという行為が毎年人気を呼んでいる。
しかし海岸での焚き火は環境に悪影響をもたらすため、焚き火をしているところを発見したら逮捕もありえるとDLNRが声明を発表した。
DNLRは「多くの人々がクリスマスツリーをボートに乗せて運んできて、サンド・バーで燃やすことは海岸や周囲の海洋生物の生態系に悪影響を及ぼします」と述べている。
しかし、実際には誰が行ったのかを追跡調査するのは困難だ。
DNLRでは毎年ツリーの焚き火についての通報を受け取っており、その度にサンド・バーに小型ボートを出動させているが、この不法行為に関係した個人の特定が常に行われているわけではない。
ハワイ州内では不要ゴミを公共の場所や裏庭などで燃やすことは不法行為となっている。DNLRでは昨年のクリスマス後にサンド・バーでクリスマスツリーを燃やした人々のビデオを公開している。
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altercation
口論
口喧嘩
罵り合い、とか？
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Mayhem
混乱・大荒れ・障害
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